Student Submission CUNY Hunter College Spring 2025

In this TikTok, a young black woman discusses noticing a trend of “white girls [her] age getting engaged and [her] age group still standing in lines getting ‘smashed or passed’.” Another black woman stitches this discussing how a lot of black girls and women never have a ‘classic’ dating experience, i.e. a date planned for them, or a bouquet of roses given to them. She alludes that this is largely due to how society stereotypes black women. Additionally, she discussed how people use the stereotypical excuse “black women are hypersexual;” but if society shows black women that “selling sex is the only way you can get the attention of your male counterpart”, then what are they to do. Black women are boxed in and treated differently especially when it comes to the current dating scene which further perpetuates misogynoir. Under the same TikTok a comment confirms this, “[t]he fact that my non-black friends get approached all the time and I just feel INVISIBLE.”